December 8, 2009: Weeding Through The messages and Finding the One You Want
If you use internet personals or online dating sites, then you have probably had the experience of trying to sort through a mountain of emails. Here are some tips to narrow your Internet dating pool to those who have real potential.
Delete Impersonal Messages Get rid of anyone who sends you a message that is not sincere. These messages usually come in the form of poems and sales pitches and do not include your name (or username) in the introduction. Singles who write these are simply sending out mass-mailings to cast their net as wide as possible and haul-in whomever they can. If you are looking for a serious dating relationship, then you do not want them.
If you receive: ¿Philly is an awesome city. Just went to a Phillies / Yanks game. Anyway, I¿ve attached my profile. Let me know if you are interested. ¿
You should: This person has read your profile. The message is fun and concise. If you like the photos, then go ahead and respond.
If you receive: ¿I¿m single and lead an good life. When I find the right person I¿d like to settle down. Some of my fave activities are dancing and riding my motorcycle. I¿m looking for a beautiful and intelligent lady who knows how to be a woman. If you¿re looking for a great guy with a lot to offer, then get back to me.¿
You should: There is nothing personal in this message. Single men who send messages like these are simply casting a wide net to see whom they can find. Most likely he did not read your profile.
If you receive: ¿Hey, I see you have been to the Laugh House too. I love that place. I used to have a stand up act there. Know any other good comedy clubs in the area?¿
You should: Singles that directly reference things in your profile get a definite yes when it is time to reply. Take a look at their profile and tailor a response for them. If you receive: ¿Hey Babe, just wanted to drop a lin n say HI and let you no I¿m vry intrsted in you. Hope stuff is good for ya. Would luv to chat. Ciao¿
You should: Singles who send messages like this reveal to you that they don¿t care about the details. First messages should always be checked for correct spelling because you always want to put your best foot forward.
If you receive: ¿I enjoyed reading your profile and wanted to know if you liked mine. Let me know if you think it is interesting.¿
You should: This person did not read your profile. If you are not impressed with the looks, then delete it and move on.
If you receive: ¿Thanks for the message. What other fun things do you like to do. I love surfing, it¿s one of my passions. I also enjoy climbing and hiking. I see you like these things too. Tell me about it! By the way, your pics are great and your profile is really interesting.¿
You should: Single men and women who write messages like this belong in your dating pool. He or she has taken the time to write a personalized message. You should take a second look at their page and consider replying.
There are many singles online and you can find the right one for you. Following these tips will help you sort through the many messages you receive as a member of an online dating site. You will narrow your dating pool to the single men or single women you are looking for and possibly find that special someone you are looking for.
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